Miscommunication Creates Hurdle
Posted on July 4, 2008, under Health.
The strains felt in marriage are often due to simple miscommunication.Men and women, often without being aware of the facts, tend to communicate in different ways.
Communication between the sexes is not only an art to be developed for the sake of harmony at home.It is also important as a means of rounding up one’s own character.Thus, the different ways in which men and women signal their thoughts and desires, can make them more sensitive in complementary ways of thinking and feeling.
Here are a few points to help couples develop better communication in their marriages:
- Men are more literal minded, for it is a mark of logical thinking.
- Women are more apt to reject reason altogether, if their feelings don’t support a logical trend.Men, on the other hand, are apt to reject feelings altogether unless they support such a trend
- Both sexes must be careful not to use their special faculties oppressively.Women must not resort to emotional blackmail.And men must not use logic relentlessly
- Show appreciation when you feel it.Appreciation is often a more important message than exactness of opinion.
- Don’t assume the other person knows how you feel
- Listen to the your partner as often as you want him/her to listen to you
- In difference of opinion, don’t insist on having the last word.To give your spouse the last word is a victory in itself
- Never play power games.Even if you feel slighted, maintain a noble attitude not by endeavoring to show your partner how noble you are, but by showing complete acceptance and respect
- Avoid voicing negative emotions
- Hold realistic expectations of one another.Don’t expect perfection of your partner.
